On the self-development ride? Thinking of getting on that roller coaster to see what all the fuss is about? Well, I’ve been on for over 25 years and it’s quite a thing. What to try, where to go, who to read, how does this work, what the heck is happening…..??!?!?  Been there, going back later today.

I’ve been searching for what I truly want to say to you. I’m a teacher and I can go into conceptual theory, which is fine, but it’s not exactly what you may be here for. I’m writing a book (or two or three), if you want the teachy part, buy the book.  But here, online? Let’s dive in to what actually is happening on a day to day with someone who is up to their ass in the alligators of self-help.

What is it like to take the hard look at yourself, to feel all the feels, and to do the work on yourself? It can suck. It can feel like you’re poking out your own eyes with a twisty wine bottle opener.  And those are the good days. It can get hard, but there’s a bigger purpose: life looking and running like you truly want it to go.

What’s it like to have your life flow, be fun, exciting, joyful, and look exactly like you want?  So friggin’ good you can’t even.  Over-the-top delicious. Dreamy + Fabulous + Wonderful = All at once. So worth every alligator and every eye poke. I promise.

I’ll jump into both.  I’d love to hear from you in the comments or on social media. You don’t have to go through any of this alone, self-development is a lot more fun and a lot more efficient together.

Welcome to the roller coaster.

Beginner’s Brain

Beginner’s Brain

One of my teachers is talking about coming at this new coaching methodology we're studying with a beginner's mind. My brain is getting all twisty learning, after a decade of coaching this is all so new it's a challenge -- I think I can feel the new neural connections...

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Helping

This week I was able to be with a coaching client while she sorted out a decision to go into a helping profession. Over time, she'll help hundreds, if not thousands, of people, their families, friends, and co-workers. She's changing the world by helping people live...

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Love = Courage

There's a lot of talk these days in the culture about "bleeding hearts" and "snowflakes", disparaging the idea that love and kindness is a weakness. It is not. Being willing to love, being open to the vulnerability of connection, being able to show compassion and...

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Building Balance

I’m a workaholic. It’s ruined relationships, friendships, health, fun, and peace of mind. At the same time, I’m passionate about  what I do and would be perfectly happy doing nothing else. This is not a comfortable place to live, especially when I’d really like to...

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Anxiety Tigers

It’s amazing how anxiety can knock you on your ass. I spent most of my 20’s not realizing what was going on and my 30’s pretending that I didn’t have anxiety so that I could be the cool girl/cool girlfriend type. That all stopped in my mid 30’s when I had an anxiety...

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