On the self-development ride? Thinking of getting on that roller coaster to see what all the fuss is about? Well, I’ve been on for over 25 years and it’s quite a thing. What to try, where to go, who to read, how does this work, what the heck is happening…..??!?!? Been there, going back later today.
I’ve been searching for what I truly want to say to you. I’m a teacher and I can go into conceptual theory, which is fine, but it’s not exactly what you may be here for. I’m writing a book (or two or three), if you want the teachy part, buy the book. But here, online? Let’s dive in to what actually is happening on a day to day with someone who is up to their ass in the alligators of self-help.
What is it like to take the hard look at yourself, to feel all the feels, and to do the work on yourself? It can suck. It can feel like you’re poking out your own eyes with a twisty wine bottle opener. And those are the good days. It can get hard, but there’s a bigger purpose: life looking and running like you truly want it to go.
What’s it like to have your life flow, be fun, exciting, joyful, and look exactly like you want? So friggin’ good you can’t even. Over-the-top delicious. Dreamy + Fabulous + Wonderful = All at once. So worth every alligator and every eye poke. I promise.
I’ll jump into both. I’d love to hear from you in the comments or on social media. You don’t have to go through any of this alone, self-development is a lot more fun and a lot more efficient together.
Welcome to the roller coaster.
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