Vision & Mission

A Really Big Life is committed to inspiring women to flourish with a life that turns them on, thrills them to the core, and calls them to leap out of bed in the morning.

We empower women to love themselves and create a life they love through fun, kick-ass positive psychology tools. soul-building introspection, community-connecting courses, and a whole lot of laughter when life gets tough.

What is A Really Big Life, anyway?

People ask all the time. It all depends on what you think a really big life is for you.

Everyone’s vision is their own and wildly different from what other people want for their lives. Some people want to travel the world, have huge businesses, be public figures, make a splash in their industry, start a non-profit to change the world.

Others want to connect with family, have strong neighborhoods, tend to their gardens and homes, building a solid personal and spiritual life for themselves and those closest to them.

A really big life for some is being a rock star and for others it is their books and the perfect cup of tea. There is no wrong answer. There is only Your answer.

Many of us have never thought about it, some have never even been asked. Most feel like we don’t deserve to have what we’ve always wanted. Yet, that is not true, we all deserve our big life.

So I’m asking you now:  What does a really big life look like for You? If you could have life exactly the way you want it, what would that be? What would get you so excited you would fly out of bed every morning?

I can’t tell you what really big is for you, but I can provide resources for you to get from here to there. We address anything that gets between you and your vision and your life becomes fulfilling in ways you never knew thought possible. You and your life are the focus of everything we do. That is what a really big life looks like for me.

What is Positive Psychology Coaching?

Positive Psychology is the research based study of what goes well in life and encouraging those aspects. Traditional psychology focuses on the disease processes and is a vital and valuable resource for many. Positive psychology puts equal attention and value on the development of character strengths and building an accomplished, meaningful, connected life for people. Martin Seligman, considered the Father of modern Positive Psychology, promotes the concept of Flourishing and the five elements of well-being (PERMA):

  1. Positive Emotion: Humans need positive emotion in order to experience well-being including gratitude, peace, enjoyment, inspiration, curiosity, love, hope, and satisfaction as well as the experience of being present in the moment.
  2. Engagement: When we are completely engaged in a task or situation, we become immersed and lose a sense of time and experience a sense of Flow. An increased sense of Flow in daily activities increases our sense of well-being over time.
  3. Relationships: We are social beings and good relationships are the foundation of human well-being.
  4. Meaning: In this context, meaning comes from serving and contributing to a cause larger than ourselves. This meaning can come from spiritual or secular pursuits and produces a sense of increased well-being.
  5. Achievement/Accomplishment: Flourishing through achievement involves striving and reaching for our own betterment including developing novel skills, learning, reaching a goal, or winning an event.

Positive Psychology Coaching uses the tools and science based practices to partner with clients who are committed to achieve their results.  In other words, clients bring their personal and professional goals along with their willingness to expand and their character strengths while the coach brings the knowledge, skills, and tools of coaching from the perspective of human flourishing.  Together they engage in a process that allows the client to succeed and excel in ways that surprises even themselves.

It seems like magic, but really it’s a resourceful and creative client, a strong desire for what they want, and character strengths + fabulous science,  great coaching tools, and  exceptional listening. Voila! Results galore.

Other resources added into the coaching, consulting, and coursework include skills and practices in:

-Willpower as a tool to be build and used, instead of a genetically moral stance

-Habits & Distinctions

-Mindfulness & Gratitude

-Connection building for Relationships using the Love 2.0 model

-Flow in all areas of life

-Self-efficacy over self-esteem

-Development of Positive Emotion

Are Coaches held to ethical standards?

Absolutely. Contentious and masterful coaches follow rigorous ethical standards for their work. Unfortunately, there are many people calling themselves coaches that do not follow any guidelines and participate in questionable behavior and techniques. Ask any potential coach to provide you with a written Code of Ethics under which they are working. Here’s Mine as a member of the International Coaching Federation: ICF 2015 Code of Ethics Click here for the original document. Code of Ethics Preamble ICF is committed to maintaining and promoting excellence in coaching. Therefore, ICF expects all members and credentialed coaches (coaches, coach mentors, coaching supervisors, coach trainers or students), to adhere to the elements and principles of ethical conduct: to be competent and integrate ICF Core Competencies effectively in their work. In line with the ICF core values and ICF definition of coaching, the Code of Ethics is designed to provide appropriate guidelines, accountability and enforceable standards of conduct for all ICF Members and ICF Credential-holders, who commit to abiding by the following ICF Code of Ethics: Part One: Definitions


  • Coaching: Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.
  • ICF Coach: An ICF coach agrees to practice the ICF Core Competencies and pledges accountability to the ICF Code of Ethics.
  • Professional Coaching Relationship: A professional coaching relationship exists when coaching includes an agreement (including contracts) that defines the responsibilities of each party.

Roles in the Coaching Relationship: In order to clarify roles in the coaching relationship it is often necessary to distinguish between the client and the sponsor. In most cases, the client and sponsor are the same person and are therefore jointly referred to as the client. For purposes of identification, however, the ICF defines these roles as follows:

  • Client: The “Client/Coachee is the person(s) being coached.
  • Sponsor: The “sponsor” is the entity (including its representatives) paying for and/or arranging for coaching services to be provided. In all cases, coaching engagement agreements should clearly establish the rights, roles and responsibilities for both the client and sponsor if the client and sponsor are different people.
  • Student: The “student” is someone enrolled in a coach training program or working with a coaching supervisor or coach mentor in order to learn the coaching process or enhance and develop their coaching skills.
  • Conflict of Interest: A situation in which a coach has a private or personal interest sufficient to appear to influence the objective of his or her official duties as a coach and a professional.

Part Two: The ICF Standards of Ethical Conduct

Section 1: Professional Conduct at Large

As a coach, I:

1) Conduct myself in accordance with the ICF Code of Ethics in all interactions, including coach training, coach mentoring and coach supervisory activities.

2) Commit to take the appropriate action with the coach, trainer, or coach mentor and/or will contact ICF to address any ethics violation or possible breach as soon as I become aware, whether it involves me or others.

3) Communicate and create awareness in others, including organizations, employees, sponsors, coaches and others, who might need to be informed of the responsibilities established by this Code.

4) Refrain from unlawful discrimination in occupational activities, including age, race, gender orientation, ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion, national origin or disability.

5) Make verbal and written statements that are true and accurate about what I offer as a coach, the coaching profession or ICF.

6) Accurately identify my coaching qualifications, expertise, experience, training, certifications and ICF Credentials.

7) Recognize and honor the efforts and contributions of others and only claim ownership of my own material. I understand that violating this standard may leave me subject to legal remedy by a third party.

8) Strive at all times to recognize my personal issues that may impair, conflict with or interfere with my coaching performance or my professional coaching relationships. I will promptly seek the relevant professional assistance and determine the action to be taken, including whether it is appropriate to suspend or terminate my coaching relationship(s) whenever the facts and circumstances necessitate.

9) Recognize that the Code of Ethics applies to my relationship with coaching clients, coachees, students, mentees and supervisees.

10) Conduct and report research with competence, honesty and within recognized scientific standards and applicable subject guidelines. My research will be carried out with the necessary consent and approval of those involved, and with an approach that will protect participants from any potential harm. All research efforts will be performed in a manner that complies with all the applicable laws of the country in which the research is conducted.

11) Maintain, store and dispose of any records, including electronic files and communications, created during my coaching engagements in a manner that promotes confidentiality, security and privacy and complies with any applicable laws and agreements.

12) Use ICF Member contact information (email addresses, telephone numbers, and so on) only in the manner and to the extent authorized by the ICF.


Section 2: Conflicts of Interest

As a coach, I:

13) Seek to be conscious of any conflict or potential conflict of interest, openly disclose any such conflict and offer to remove myself when a conflict arises.

14) Clarify roles for internal coaches, set boundaries and review with stakeholders conflicts of interest that may emerge between coaching and other role functions.

15) Disclose to my client and the sponsor(s) all anticipated compensation from third parties that I may receive for referrals of clients or pay to receive clients.

16) Honor an equitable coach/client relationship, regardless of the form of compensation.


Section 3: Professional Conduct with Clients

As a coach, I:

17) Ethically speak what I know to be true to clients, prospective clients or sponsors about the potential value of the coaching process or of me as a coach.

18) Carefully explain and strive to ensure that, prior to or at the initial meeting, my coaching client and sponsor(s) understand the nature of coaching, the nature and limits of confidentiality, financial arrangements, and any other terms of the coaching agreement.

19) Have a clear coaching service agreement with my clients and sponsor(s) before beginning the coaching relationship and honor this agreement. The agreement shall include the roles, responsibilities and rights of all parties involved.

20) Hold responsibility for being aware of and setting clear, appropriate and culturally sensitive boundaries that govern interactions, physical or otherwise, I may have with my clients or sponsor(s).

21) Avoid any sexual or romantic relationship with current clients or sponsor(s) or students, mentees or supervisees. Further, I will be alert to the possibility of any potential sexual intimacy among the parties including my support staff and/or assistants and will take the appropriate action to address the issue or cancel the engagement in order to provide a safe environment overall.

22) Respect the client’s right to terminate the coaching relationship at any point during the process, subject to the provisions of the agreement. I shall remain alert to indications that there is a shift in the value received from the coaching relationship.

23) Encourage the client or sponsor to make a change if I believe the client or sponsor would be better served by another coach or by another resource and suggest my client seek the services of other professionals when deemed necessary or appropriate.


Section 4: Confidentiality/Privacy

As a coach, I:

24) Maintain the strictest levels of confidentiality with all client and sponsor information unless release is required by law.

25) Have a clear agreement about how coaching information will be exchanged among coach, client and sponsor.

26) Have a clear agreement when acting as a coach, coach mentor, coaching supervisor or trainer, with both client and sponsor, student, mentee, or supervisee about the conditions under which confidentiality may not be maintained (e.g., illegal activity, pursuant to valid court order or subpoena; imminent or likely risk of danger to self or to others; etc) and make sure both client and sponsor, student, mentee, or supervisee voluntarily and knowingly agree in writing to that limit of confidentiality. Where I reasonably believe that because one of the above circumstances is applicable, I may need to inform appropriate authorities.

27) Require all those who work with me in support of my clients to adhere to the ICF Code of Ethics, Number 26, Section 4, Confidentiality and Privacy Standards, and any other sections of the Code of Ethics that might be applicable.


Section 5: Continuing Development

As a coach, I:

28) Commit to the need for continued and ongoing development of my professional skills.

Part Three: The ICF Pledge of Ethics

As an ICF coach, I acknowledge and agree to honor my ethical and legal obligations to my coaching clients and sponsors, colleagues, and to the public at large. I pledge to comply with the ICF Code of Ethics and to practice these standards with those whom I coach, teach, mentor or supervise.

If I breach this Pledge of Ethics or any part of the ICF Code of Ethics, I agree that the ICF in its sole discretion may hold me accountable for so doing. I further agree that my accountability to the ICF for any breach may include sanctions, such as loss of my ICF Membership and/or my ICF Credentials.

Adopted by the ICF Global Board of Directors June 2015.